The Best Way to Spend Quality Time with Baby

Being the mom of four children who were born during a time span of barely seven years, I used to be intrigued by the idea of the existence of quality time. The possibility that the seemingly endless house hold chores would come to a halt and make way for enchanted quality time was exciting and energizing.

If I could just clean and cook a bit faster, quality time would magically begin. If I could get out of work just a bit sooner, I could pick up baby and stop by the park to take a beautiful afternoon stroll with a gentle breeze surrounding us. How often does this happen? If this is quality time, then what is the rest of our time as parents meant to be?

What if, on the contrary, we as moms or dads do nothing but breathe in and out quality time with baby? Quality time with baby is just there every time we look into baby’s eyes, hear her voice, repeat her cues, sooth her, carry her, rock her, hold her.

Quality time with Baby is not a place we reach in the near future, it is not happening tomorrow nor later. Quality time happens when we are deliberate, intentional and dedicated to include baby in each moment.

Quality time is happening right now. It is called life. It will continue, with or without our contributions to quality. We can make quality time real. We can switch on our senses right now. We can see, listen, feel, speak, sing, laugh and play. Yes, running an errand with baby will be more challenging, setting the table will take longer, the kitchen will be messier, the pile of laundry taller.
So will be the list of memories.
Life with baby entirely is quality time. Baby grows fast- and not with the purpose to increase quality time with us but to go out into the world to succeed in finding a life of fulfillment and happiness.
Teach yourself and baby that every moment is quality time for now and for the generations to come.

Best Afternoon with Baby- Babies Are People Too

My passion for children, child development and child care started unexpectedly and unplanned. I was in my late twenties and very visibly pregnant, anxiously awaiting the birth of my first child. I was insecure, not knowing what to expect from my soon-to-start state of motherhood. If I added up all the times I had previously spent with babies I could maybe sum up 60 seconds. Of course, I had read a number of relevant books on child birth, infant care, childhood diseases and the likes, but the closer my due date approached, the less prepared I felt. That is when an unknown, self-proclaimed neighbor knocked on my door- armed with an infant and a huge diaper bag. The perfect stranger stated that she was in a dire emergency and needed instant child care for her infant daughter – rendered by no one else but me.  I informed the stranger that I would hardly qualify to watch her baby due to lack of experience. “By the size of your belly, you don’t have much time left to learn,” she said as she shook her head in disbelief upon my obvious ignorance, pushed the baby into my arms and dropped the bag on the door step. She left with a smile and said “Don’t worry, I trust you.” There I stood with baby in arms, jaw dropped open, watching the neighbor drive off. When I dared to look down, I looked into two big twinkling eyes watching me with curiosity and what seemed to be a hint of glee. I remember spending a most enchanted afternoon with this baby. She did not cry or fuss and proved to be a great companion. I learned that babies are people too. I learned that babies have a great ability to communicate and a large variety of interesting responses. Babies are full of curiosity and strive to discover the world around them. I will never forget that afternoon as the key moment that defined my personal and professional development for the next 30 years.