The Best Way to Spend Quality Time with Baby

Being the mom of four children who were born during a time span of barely seven years, I used to be intrigued by the idea of the existence of quality time. The possibility that the seemingly endless house hold chores would come to a halt and make way for enchanted quality time was exciting and energizing.

If I could just clean and cook a bit faster, quality time would magically begin. If I could get out of work just a bit sooner, I could pick up baby and stop by the park to take a beautiful afternoon stroll with a gentle breeze surrounding us. How often does this happen? If this is quality time, then what is the rest of our time as parents meant to be?

What if, on the contrary, we as moms or dads do nothing but breathe in and out quality time with baby? Quality time with baby is just there every time we look into baby’s eyes, hear her voice, repeat her cues, sooth her, carry her, rock her, hold her.

Quality time with Baby is not a place we reach in the near future, it is not happening tomorrow nor later. Quality time happens when we are deliberate, intentional and dedicated to include baby in each moment.

Quality time is happening right now. It is called life. It will continue, with or without our contributions to quality. We can make quality time real. We can switch on our senses right now. We can see, listen, feel, speak, sing, laugh and play. Yes, running an errand with baby will be more challenging, setting the table will take longer, the kitchen will be messier, the pile of laundry taller.
So will be the list of memories.
Life with baby entirely is quality time. Baby grows fast- and not with the purpose to increase quality time with us but to go out into the world to succeed in finding a life of fulfillment and happiness.
Teach yourself and baby that every moment is quality time for now and for the generations to come.

The Best Christmas Ever

Once upon a time, in the days of my childhood, when I lived in a village seated in the heart of Hessen in Germany, I experienced the best Christmas ever. I was just a young child, equipped only with awe, wonder and the ability to make memories. The span of one year seemed eternal and the closer Christmas came, the slower time crawled along. Finally Christmas Eve had arrived, – but there was no unwrapping of gifts, devouring of delicious cookies, lighting of the candles on the tree (yes, they were real candles on a real tree) without having first visited a number of less fortunate families in the village. According to my grandmother, the lonely, elderly and heartbroken had to be called upon and Christmas blessings had to be shared before the family celebration could begin. For the first time I was entrusted to accompany my grandmother and help carry off the treats and goodie bags I so desired for myself. Stomping madly through the snow, following my grandmother with hands fisted tightly in anger, I suddenly found myself in the midst of a cloud of feathery-light snow flakes sailing elegantly through the air, landing quietly in their very own spot. The world and all in it had turned silent. Illuminated by the silver moonlight, applauded by shiny stars and complimented by sparkling ice crystals everywhere, the sky generously surrendered snow flurries. A sense of peace and joy came over me. My wise grandmother must have felt it too. She turned around, set her bags on the frosty ground, put my hands into hers and glanced at me with a soft smile. I was no longer angry or sad. I was full of love and delight. Since then, many Christmas Eves have come and gone but this is the one I will always cherish the most. It truly was the best Christmas ever, and I don’t remember a single present I most certainly received later that evening, way back when ……

Still today, I love to remember the feeling of serenity, tranquility and the complete happiness of this moment. In fact, this feeling has become the heart of my values, the essence of my relationship with my family and children and the foundation of my work with children and their families. I am forever grateful to Anna, my grandmother and early teacher. But the greatest teacher of all, Nature, or as I like to call her, Mother Nature, provided the lesson.

Here is what busy parents can do to invite Mother Nature in for the holidays:

1. Collect free Christmas tree branches from tree vendors and allow children to decorate them according to their ideas, taste and desires.

2. Collect a number of twigs with children and use holiday ribbons to tie them together to form a large mobile to hang from the ceiling. Use additional ribbon to hang cards and wish lists from the mobile.

3. Fill a variety of plastic containers with water and place in freezer. Create your very own family ice sculpture and allow the children to observe and interpret the melting process.

You will enjoy these activities if you are present in the moment, present with your child, respectful and non-judgmental of the words, feelings and ideas expressed. Your comments may only describe what you see your child doing, not what you think your child is creating or should do.
Remember that all beginnings are humble, even the tiniest contributor or contribution matters a great deal!

Happy Holiday Season!